The B Word.
I get emails at least weekly about finding balance. People want to know how I do it. How I balance being a wife and mom with running a business.
Does the fact that I haven’t answered any of these emails in over a month tell you anything?
Truth is, sometimes I don’t. I get overwhelmed. My house is a wreck today (and I HATE a messy house). But my Mom is coming over to watch Kingston tomorrow, and I know she’ll clean up the mess for me. She always does. Yep. My Mom cleans my house. And my husband sometimes cooks dinner. Last night I woke up from a dead sleep and remembered I hadn’t paid 2 bills that were due over the weekend. Ugh! Balance is hard. I struggle with it constantly. Between taking care of my boys, running Pink Coffee, doing graphic design work for my church, blogging, working on freelance projects (and everything else) it’s hard. Really hard.
I struggle with it just like everyone else, but I try to remember that at the end of the day my family is what’s most important. That’s why I only take on one photoshoot a week. And it’s also why I don’t participate in photography networking groups or anything else that makes me feel like I have to compete. I want my Pink Coffee clients to have a great experience, and I’ve realized that in order to make that happen I can only do so much. I want to say I’ve learned to say “no”. But I think it’s more honest to say that I’m learning to say “no”. I don’t have it all figured out yet, but every time I turn down a project that I know would interfere with my family-life it gets easier. And it feels so good! I’m learning what works best for Team Almeida and trying to ignore what other people think.
So that’s my long answer to this often-asked question. I’m a work in progress!
Thanks for this!!! I really needed it!
I kinda hate the world balance. 🙂 to me it makes it seem like everything has to even out with my time. But the reality for me is that I’m never going to be able to give the same amount of time to my family as I do blogging, photography, etc. Something has to take priority and that’s my family first, always. I say no a lot! and it’s really helped to wage everything against is this a benefit to my family? does it take away time from them? could it be better spent elsewhere? these are questions i ask myself before committing to anything.
i love what you said about finding what works for you! it’s so true because every family is different. 🙂 thanks for sharing today!
THIS IS SO HARD FOR ME! I have SO MUCH I want to do, ‘need’ to do, make, sell, etc…but after these 42 dresses, I’m really realzing, all I really NEED to do is SIT and BE STILL. Thank you for this. Thank you for the reminder that the boys at home are really the only ones that matter! THANK YOU! xoxoxoxo
For the record, I think you’re doing a wonderful job.
Your comment, “I am learning…” is something I say regularly. In 58 years I don’t think I’ve learned anything TOTALLY. Rather, I am still learning to be a husband, a daddy, a faithful Christian, a pastor, etc. Thanks for being honest. I love you.
Pops, I got that phrase from you. 🙂 Love you too!
love, love this post. it’s so hard to find balance. i struggle with work, house, family and maintaining my relationship with God. at the end of the day all that matters is your relationship
with the people you love and God. everything else can wait.
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